Can I chime in here?

Well of course I can. It's my blog. 

Here's what I want say: I dress modestly for me. But guess what else? I dress modestly for the men too. Somewhere as a society we have gotten confused again. What I hear most loudly are those who reject modesty and call it body shaming. Did we forget the point of covering our body parts?

I remember a guy telling me once that he had seen  quite a bit of cleavage and had seen "pretty plainly down [my] shirt." And you know what? I was HUMILIATED! Not because I am ashamed of my body, but because I was trying to be *careful to be more than "the girl with the large chest." For the record, I really hope men are attracted to my body. I just don't want that to be the only thing they are attracted to. I don't want that to be the focus. 

I agree 100% that men are responsible for where they let their minds graze. You know what else I believe? That guard rails are a good idea for both of us. 

When I read the **articles where women are outraged by this idea that a desire and a plea to dress modestly is somehow limiting the power or the responsibility of men I am baffled. 

Can I quote Mufasa? "Being brave doesn't mean you go looking for trouble." I think men can exercise all of their self control and learn to use their brain instead of their hormones in all of the situations I don't have control of. (ie Media, his imagination, every female who is showing more than I am...) 

No one seems to think it is a bad idea to dress attractively for the men. It's okay to admit that we got a new outfit for a date, because we wanted to impress him. But if we want to show too much of our body, then it is his responsibility to pretend he can't see that and we get to claim zero responsibility? That hardly seems fair either. 

Sometimes I mess up, but I am going to continue to try to keep my body parts covered because I know I am a daughter of God and because I am confident enough in that knowledge to think it is probably a good idea to help out the sons of God too. 

*and you know what? I was even wearing one of those blasted shade shirts. Sometimes modesty is hard. 

**one article mentioned hating "Modest is Hottest." Well I just want to testify that it is. Like usually 10 degrees warmer.